A surprise bundle of...joy?
Monday, October 16, 2006

This weekend was pretty nice and relaxing. Fiday night we went and had dinner at our friend's house and had taco soup along with the pumpkin pie I made. We played the card game "Phase 10", which is really fun, for those of you who have never played it. Oh my goodness, I ended up eating 5 pieces of pumpkin pie in 2 days. Shame on me!

Saturday we had breakfast with some friends and had a little Bible study afterwards. We're planning on reading the Bible all the way through, 5 chapters at a time, discussing it along the way. I've never read the Bible from start to finish (seems like I always fizzle out around Numbers or Deuteronomy:), so I'm excited about finally doing that....even though it will take a very long time. Then, we just ran some errands and hung out at home the rest of the evening.

Yesterday we went to church, then went to a Mexican restaurant for lunch. I ate tons of chips, salsa, and queso blanco....along with 2 beef enchiladas and a beef taco. Oh yes, did I mention that I have been in quite a beef-lovin' mood lately? Strange, since ALL meat grossed me out for several weeks at the beginning of the pregnancy. Chicken's still not sounding so great, though. We went to the evening service @ church, then came back to our house with several of our friends and played Pictionary. We stayed up entirely too late, but we had a lot of fun. I'm not sure how much all that's going to change when the baby comes, so I guess it's good that we have late nights with our friends while we can. :)

I am 14 weeks pregnant today. Tomorrow is our 3rd appointment with the midwife and we'll also meet with our back-up doctor. I'm pretty tempted to just go ahead and listen for the heartbeat with the Doppler tomorrow. I just think it would be so cool to hear it. It would make the idea that there is a little person growing inside me a lot more real....although I am almost positive that I've been feeling that little person flip-flopping around in there. I'm past the stage where I just blame it on gas....it's a very recognizable flutter that happens mostly when I am laying in bed trying to fall asleep. Yesterday after clapping, singing, and moving around during our song service at church, I sat down to hear the sermon and could feel quite a bit of movement. Maybe the loud music had something to do with it.

I'm starting to justify using the Doppler at this next appointment because a lot of people listen for the heartbeat w/ the Doppler at every single prenatal appointment, which could easily add up to over a dozen times or more....along with 1 or 2 (or more)sonograms on top of that. With that in mind, it doesn't seem so bad to go ahead and use it just for this one appointment, since we're going to use the fetoscope through the rest of the pregnancy and have opted to skip the "routine" 20 week ultrasound altogether.

I got to hold a two-week old baby the other day. It was so wonderful and amazing, yet sad at the same time. The baby's mother claims she did not find out that she was pregnant until she was 38 weeks along. Although It's sort of hard to believe that she didn't at least suspect that something was going on all that time, I do believe how it could be possible. She is pretty overweight and has a top-heavy shaped body, so she was quite large around the middle anyway. She said that she spotted through the whole pregnancy and since she has irregular cycles anyway, she didn't think anything of it. She ended up going to the doctor because she said her stomach felt "hard" and she was afraid she might have a growth or a tumor. That's when she found out that she was pregnant and she had the baby a week and a half later. She is quite the "partier" so I know that she drank through the whole pregnancy and did not take care of herself at all. He appears to be healthy and she said that the doc gave him a clean bill of health at his 2 week check-up that morning. That's good. She's a friend of a friend....I don't really KNOW her....I actually do remember her from a crowd that DH and I used to drink with, but I don't think she remembered me. It is so sad for the poor little baby. She just seems so disconnected from him. She dropped by my friend's when I was over there exercising and seemed anxious to get that little baby out of her arms. She did not hesitate at all to hand me his bottle of formula so I could feed him. He was rooting around and crying and when my friend (who also has a new baby) mentioned that he looked hungry, the momma said "Oh, his bottle's in the car. I was just going to have my mom handle that when I get to her house in a little while." We convinced her to bring the bottle inside. I don't know anything about formula or the temperature it's supposed to be, but she brought this bottle of water in from her cold vehicle and then just dumped the powder in, shook it up, and had me feed the baby with it cold. I always thought that you're supposed to warm a baby's bottle up. Maybe I don't know what I'm talking about. It wasn't necessarily the fact that she was anxious to let others hold her newborn or that she seemed fine with a virtual stranger feeding her 2 week old child that bothered me....it was her overall attitude. She just wasn't excited at all. I guess she hasn't really had a chance to get excited about it. She is unmarried and not "with" the father of the child at this time. In fact, she doesn't even want to tell him that he has a child now. I hope she gets adjusted to motherhood and that precious baby gets the best in life, despite its rough beginnings.

Labels: friends, griping about people, pregnancy, spirituality

posted by Unkempt Mommy @ 11:04 AM,

2 Comments:

At Mon Oct 16, 12:54:00 PM CDT, Danielle said...: pray, pray, pray.

I bet she is still in shock that this is even real. She probably doesn't know much about babies. God gave him to her though, for whatever reason, so just pray.

I say get the dopplar if you want it. Truth be known, your body is being bombarded with sound waves, radio waves, and all kinda radiation stuffs all the time. The 30 seconds they use the dopplar on your tummy isn't going to hurt the baby. I just don't beleive it will. What does your hubby want to do?
At Mon Oct 16, 06:05:00 PM CDT, Shana said...: All your sad tales of bad parenting are killing me! Is it too much that I want to believe that all children are wanted and cherished and treated properly? Maybe you have some good parenting stories to share?